Timeline and spirituality

2010 December 09 - 15

Created by Carol 13 years ago
The last month or so as it is today have past in a whirl and it seems years since Mom past, and yet so near. Time is so neutral. Mom funeral was held on 30th December at 3pm at York Crematoriun. The service was taken by Harvey Dean from our Church in Acomb The Gateway Christian Centre and Oasis for the elderly Mom was a part of. Harvey took a beautiful service and beautifully adapted as I only had a timeline of 5 minutes to do a testamony to Mom and Mom life was to full to fit into 5 minutes so I ran over. Harvey read one of my favorite passages from The Bible 'In my Father house there are many mansions, I go to prepare a place for you'. His picking, Harvey did not know it was my favorite passage. Mom always loved her music so we always made sure her music was on quietly on the night and in the last week a selection of music was left out so the nurses could keep appropriate music on all the time when we weren't there, some of which is in the 'sounds' area of the site that you can play as you leaf through the tribute Before Mom past Mom took to her bed a week before and simply stopped eating and drinking. Mom was in no pain, drug free and simply slipped in and out of sleep and consciousness. On the Saturday 11th Dec a Christian friend said to me about Mom and I suddenly realized I hadn't emotionally released Mom so when we went over I sat and talked to Mom about Jesus as Mom had not come back properly to Jesus as Mom had the dementia diagnozed 3 years before, I told Mom not to be afraid if there was a man in the room as it was Jesus and i told her to go with Jesus and all about him. I then from the bottom of my heart told Mom all I needed to reading her The Bible passage 2 Corinthians 5:1 'Now we know that if the earthly tent is destroyed,we have a building from God,an eternal house in heaven,not built by human hands. As I finished Mom who was laid on her side in the bedroom eyes opened wide as wide in wonder going straight up to the corner of the room and then I knew I had released her to go. We took communion together later that day me Mom and David and I read 1 Corinthians 11. Mom later that night took her last full drink of about a quarter of a cup from me. There are many other spiritual moments during that week leading up to Mom's passing. Mom was ready to go. The dementia had gradually robbed Mom of her independance and who Mom was even before the accident. Mom work was done. Mom had led me and been the rock to me to bring me and the youngsters to a place of safety where her world her family was where we were suposed to be. Night night Mom until we meet again. Scattering Mom ashes today 15th January 2011 in West Bank park where Mom took her Grandchildren many many times over the years, nearby in a quiet area for contemplation for us all we intend to also do a more permanent memorial to Mom and I will journal on when it is done later in the year..